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Saturday, October 31, 2009
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What better way to make the first dip into the metaphoric inkwell of blog-land than to do so with a confession.
I confess:
For years, whenever I heard the word codependence, I cringed. I denied any relationship to it and avoided all who portrayed what I figured to be its stereotype: helpless, needy souls pleading, begging to be liked. I couldn’t stand the idea of associating with these kinds of people. You see I was, or at least I imagined I was, it’s antithesis: independent, hard working, selfless and most specifically, in control.
So, it is somewhat ironic that I should not only design a program but name a blog and website with this dreaded word. Moreover, in the last few years, I have grown particularly fond of it. It has a nice ring to it, don’t you think? I can even say it aloud: “Codependence”, without a grimace.
The bottom line is that as much as I hated the idea of associating with “codependents” (and I use those quotation marks judiciously), I was as much in that state as those I avoided. I wanted to be loved, validated and accepted as much as they did. My methods were just more socially acceptable.
What I hope to do with this blog is to shine a light on this most human of conditions so that more than just the shadow is seen. With (ir)regular submissions I plan to illuminate how accepting and appreciating codependence as a creative response to childhood needs is but a stepping stone to reclaiming our wholeness.
Welcome to my blog.
Oh, for a more in-depth definition of codependence I encourage you to visit my website Creative Codependence and select articles.
I confess:
For years, whenever I heard the word codependence, I cringed. I denied any relationship to it and avoided all who portrayed what I figured to be its stereotype: helpless, needy souls pleading, begging to be liked. I couldn’t stand the idea of associating with these kinds of people. You see I was, or at least I imagined I was, it’s antithesis: independent, hard working, selfless and most specifically, in control.
So, it is somewhat ironic that I should not only design a program but name a blog and website with this dreaded word. Moreover, in the last few years, I have grown particularly fond of it. It has a nice ring to it, don’t you think? I can even say it aloud: “Codependence”, without a grimace.
The bottom line is that as much as I hated the idea of associating with “codependents” (and I use those quotation marks judiciously), I was as much in that state as those I avoided. I wanted to be loved, validated and accepted as much as they did. My methods were just more socially acceptable.
What I hope to do with this blog is to shine a light on this most human of conditions so that more than just the shadow is seen. With (ir)regular submissions I plan to illuminate how accepting and appreciating codependence as a creative response to childhood needs is but a stepping stone to reclaiming our wholeness.
Welcome to my blog.
Oh, for a more in-depth definition of codependence I encourage you to visit my website Creative Codependence and select articles.